Touching Our Essence

23 April 2022 | 2 min read


My new Medium article is now published!

“Dear Drissia, just to tell you that yesterday went super well! Can you imagine that at a certain point I felt my essence while talking and watching the room?”

This heartwarming note may not mean much to you, but it was a huge breakthrough for this client! It was the moment she started to feel herself at a deeper level with her soul and heart, beneath the noise of her insecurities. I was so happy for her and could deeply relate to her experience as I have been there myself.

The expression “being ourselves” can sometimes be misunderstood because whatever sense of self we have developed in our heads based on our personal history and memories, we often mistake that for who we are.

In reality, we are not the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, how we show up or behave, nor what others (or tests) tell us we are. We think we are the only ones to get caught up in insecure thoughts, but insecurities are one of the most spread psychological misunderstandings. Young, old, men, women… It’s where we meet in our shared humanness, and we all have that. But they don’t really matter as much as we think. They come and go. If only we didn’t identify with them so much!

We think the pain we sometimes have to go through in life changes us fundamentally, but it isn´t true, it impacts our psychological experience of life, not our very core. In our essence, nothing ever changes. Our essence stays as pure as it has always been. We can experience the pain, remember it, feel it, and hold on to it, but we are not the pain. We are way more than that. This is where our true strength comes from.”

I hope you enjoy reading this article: Touching Our Essence.


Written by Drissia Schroeder-Hohenwarth

Transformative Coach for Leaders, Teams and Organisations with a fascination for the endless potential of the mind.

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